Coping with a Loved One’s Unique Addiction

unmade bedAwareness programs concerning drug and alcohol addiction may overshadow the effects of dependence on other activities and their own recovery programs. This does not make other addictions any less real. Sexual addiction, for one, maybe just as dangerous as substance abuse. It affects almost all walks of life, resulting in ruined relationships, disease, and failure to cope in many cases.

You can do a few things for a loved one who is afflicted with this addiction, and provide the utmost support and encouragement during the recovery process.

Know when to help

While there are certain things you can do to support your loved one’s recovery, it’s important to understand that you’re not fully responsible for their behaviour or decisions. Be a positive influence and a good source of encouragement. Do not place your loved one’s addiction on your own shoulders and blame yourself for any relapse or failure.

Seek counselling as a partner

Sex addiction can harm three entities in a relationship: you, your partner, and the two of you as a couple. If it’s starting to ruin your relationship, professional rehabilitation centres can act as a mediator and source of advice as both of you move forward.

Get assistance for yourself

Keep in mind that your partner is not the only person who needs help. You have been emotionally hurt badly, and you may be dealing with anxiety so you also need recovery centres to cope with these feelings and to process your anger in healthy ways. You will not be of much help to your partner if you’re not personally stable yourself.

Keep calm and be constructive

You will need to express plenty of emotions, especially if your partner shows signs of relapse. Always approach a conversation constructively; yelling is a natural way to vent, but it barely achieves anything else.

Sex addiction isn’t just really about having too much sex. It deals with a lot of things, including your personal issues and the ways of coping with it – be it drugs, alcohol, or even sex. It’s also about avoiding intimacy with your partner while connecting with strangers you believe to be safe. You just need time and the right kind and amount of help to find your way back.

 

Resources:
http://www.harmonygroup.co.za/programme/rehabilitation/
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/06/19/telling-your-partner-the-disclosure-process-in-recovery-from-sex-addiction/
http://www.medicinenet.com/sexual_addiction/article.htm